Finding yourself an experienced guide to help you navigate the turbulent and unfamiliar waters of early recovery is crucial.

Although it is tempting to think you can go it alone and heal yourselves by doing a workbook, or watching a video series, it is impossible to heal an intimacy disorder without involving other people. Building intimate relationships with trusted others is key in rewiring addicted neural pathways and dealing with trauma. I know the recovery tools you may have read about seem straightforward enough, but with so much pain flying around things can go spectacularly sideways quickly. Therapeutic steps like a period of celibacy or undertaking a full disclosure should not be attempted without the supervision of someone qualified and experienced. Done properly, the process, although painful and costly, can be utterly transformative.  

There are many options when it comes to choosing your recovery guide and community. Thankfully, most professionals are working online now which opens up even more options. In an ideal world, you will both have a therapist/coach that you see on an individual basis, plus your own small recovery group. Many therapists/coaches run their own group/s. Our recommendation is that addicts see CSATS (Certified Sexual Addiction Therapists) and partners see APSATS trained therapists or coaches, (Association of Partners of Sex Addict Trauma Specialists).

However, we appreciate that going this route is simply not financially possible for everyone. The good news is that there are a growing number of ministries that specialize in this area, providing counselors, coaches, and groups for addicts and partners for a range of costs. To help you find the right group we regularly invite professionals and ministry leaders onto the podcast. We also have links to providers who work individually with couples in early recovery or run specialist groups for couples such as developing empathy, rebuilding connection, or restoring sexual intimacy. 

If you have not already done so, sign up to our fellowship group as we regularly spotlight new resources, upcoming workshops, courses, tools, and providers.

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Gary Wilson. Your Brain on Porn Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction. 

  • Your Brain on Porn:  (Incredible collection of scientific research about the effects of internet porn on the brain) Click on this link to watch the video Mindy was talking about in Episode 1 of the podcast

William M Struthers. Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

resources for parents

Media Savvy Moms Podcast – MUST LISTEN for parents!

Parents Aware  This website has everything to need to protect your child from porn and coach them through their struggles.  Listen to Parents Aware inteview

Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids.Jenson, Kristen A., and Debbie Fox.

Good Pictures Bad Pictures Junior Edition: Porn-Proofing for Today’s Kids. Jenson, Kristen A., and Debbie Fox. 

Fight the New Drug:  (terrific resources for educating your children/teens about porn. Free 3 part documentary to stream. Great guide how to talk to your kids)

Brain Heart World Documentary from Fight The New Drug – MUST SEE DOCUMENTARY for parents and kids over 12. Free to screen for individuals. 

Fortify Online support for Teens who struggle with sexual complusivity

Culture Reframed:  (helping parents and other adults build kids’ resilience to hypersexualized media and porn)

Google Safety Center For

Protect Young, (great information on how to choose the right technological solution for your family) (great information on protection for your kids)

Netsmartz Workshop: (resources for dealing with sexual predators)

Cyberbully: (resources for helping kids dealing with an online bully)

Filters: Net NannyCovenantEyesOpenDNSGoogle SafeSearch

the fight again sexual exploitation

Matt Fradd. The Porn Myth: Exposing the Reality behind the Fantasy of Pornography. 

National Coalition on Sexual Exploitation:  (leading national organization exposing the links between all forms of sexual exploitation such as child sexual abuse, prostitution, sex trafficking and the public health crisis of pornography)

Enough is Enough: (national organization campaigning to make the internet safer for families and children)

fight for love articles